Masha'Allah

Wonderful qoutes.
Thank you for providing them for us Sister

The most important one is probably the one about the tongue.
If we just keep our tongue quite for a litte bit many problems wil be solved,
But it's very hard for people to keep their mouths quite,
That's why we see them suffering so much in their lives ..
and there is a narration which mentions something along the line of most of those who enter hell enter it because of their stomache's and tongues ..

You concentrated on the most important part which many many people suffer from
If it's hard form them to keep their tongues quiet , at least they should use the right word in the right place

A living proof

Yesterday , when I was at my office , the cleaner came in and saw an Indian doing his work. I was surprised to find this cleaner cursing that Indian and using rude language without any reason and meanwhile he was doing his job innocently not understanding her

I was upset for the situation but what made me more upset that this cleaner came to me and forced me to listen to her rude words towadrs that Indian.I ignored her showing her that I did not like what she said or did , especially that she is much more elder than me and I didn't know how to tell her to keep her tongue quiet . When she got out I was shocked to find my colleague ,who is also elder than me , coming to me and started backbiting & gossiping
and again I was forced to listen to her
To tell the truth I made myself busy with some stuff and imagine she said stop using the laptop cos it's dangerous as if she wanted me to listen to her by force

I was really upset on that day and today she also made me listen to her gossip & backbiting
The problem is that she backbits all types of people including : colleagues, boss, adminstration, former boss & colleagues,scholars,friends,family ,workers ,her servant , students...etc almost everyone

Am sorry I talked a lot but I find it a big problem for me to work with such people and the problem that this thing is found almost everywhere but maybe cos am not used to it that's why I said it

Anyway

Thanks a lot for your great comments
Hope to see you here always

Salaams & Duas

La hawla wala quwata ila billah

You know what the problem is sister in these situations?
The problem is that Ahlulbeit (as) and the Prophet (saww) have mentioned in various narrations that the listener to the gheeba is taking part in the gheeba as well,
and the person that does not defend the person being mughtab (backbited) is also one of the backbiters, and is considered to have helped the backbiter with his job.
This is one of the problems that our scholars always mention to keep us aware of,
which is really our responsiblity in such situations.
They mention that once you are in the society, so many responsibilities will be thrown on your back and shoulder, and if you do not hold up to them, then you will be responsible in the day of judgement.

For example, if something haram occurs infront of you, and you have the ability to speak against it and you don't, then you are considered to be taking part in it as well.
So in this situation, we are obliged to speak out, even if it's hard and will cause problems between you and the other person, but Allah (swt) comes before everything right? Even if our relationship worsens by awakening people up and try pointing out their mistakes,
at the end, it's Allah (swt)'s pleasing that we ask for, and not the pleasing of humans, so no matter what happens, we should only see Him infront of us

Sometimes, when a problem like this occurs, it's quite hard imagining how to deal with it, especially in these days where it's increase in a vast amount, and the haram is spread almost everywhere, even in our houses !
It's hard to think how to deal in such situations, because most people don't want to hear what they did wrong from you, rather they want you to accept what they are saying and agree with it, and if you don't do that, then they will consider it as if you are insulting them and betraying your friendship with them !
In this situation, the test reveals everything, it reveals if the persons love is actually for Allah (swt), or it's for himself and for his own desires.
If his love is purely for Allah (swt), then he will not even hesitate a bit in telling the other person he is wrong (of course in a proper manner that is ) , but if he fears other people more than he fears Allah (swt) .. Then that's a big problem

I ask you to excuse me sister for a few days as I have been suffering this month from breathing problems and other sickness', as well, so I will not be able to come online for a few days

I ask from you not to forget me in your prayers, as well as those faithful people that you know

Allah (swt) knows best


Wasalam

My thankfulness & appreciation for your presence & leaving such nice comments

Respect & Regards

Salaams

That's really not good news ! Am sorry to hear so

I hope you get speedy recovery Insh-Allah

May Allah Grant you good health Amin.

My prayers are with you brother

In sha Allah U will be in agood health shortly
Realy we don't want to miss a diacritical member like U

Our respected moderator

Thank you for being here

We pray Allah that our brother Ya Zahra Madad recovers soon Insha-Allah and comes back to us

Salaams & Prayers

Alsalamu alaikum wa rahmatullah

Thank you very much for your du'a's and caring for a person like me who doesn't deserve it


May Allah (Swt) bless both of you

Thank you for your prayers,
Alhamdulillah I am getting better now

Whatever Allah (Swt) wishes for .. we have to be pleased

at the end, whatever He wants is beautiful .. as long as it's from Him (swt) !

and the best love from Allah (swt) is the painful love !

May Allah (swt) bless you again and keep us on the straight path,
the path of Muhammad and His household peace be upon them

The path that requires patience ..
The path that whomever remains on will be the chosen one and the winner in the hereafter!

Insha'Allah we will be able to pass all the tests that we will be put through

Wasalam

My prayers are with you insha'Allah

Assalaamu Alaykum

Welcome back brother

Glad to hear that you are getting better

You deserve it & more

Thank you very much

This is from your kindness and pure heart

May Allah (swt) reward you and keep all harm away from you and your family