تويت
O, Dear Sister …..
Introduction
O, Dear Sister …..
I write to you, full of pain of what criminals and unbelievers (kafirs) caused to you ……
O, Dear Sister …..
I write with a burning ache in my heart, out of care, concern and defense to you….. and I see the effects of the enemies in you…..
O, Dear Sister …..
I write to you feeling choked to see you a toy in the hands of criminals …..
O, Dear Sister …..
I write and my heart is deeply aching that I have recognized the effect of the immoral media on you, which had made you its prisoner, changing you as it wishes …..
I write to you with pain, not with a pen while I illustrate the sacrifices of the religious leaders, martyrs and the wisdom throughout history, who delivered Islam to you to save your dignity and honor ….. while you are giving up all these sacrifices and blood for the kafirs and !!!!!
O, Dear Sister …..
If you don’t pity yourself, feel ashamed from your God …..
If you weren’t religious, at least be of the dignified people ……
If you don’t care for yourself, respect the past generations and the muslims
around you …..
If you weren’t truthful with yourself, don’t give up the following generations...
If you weren’t helpful for your religion and the religious, don’t be against
them …. that they be insulted infront of your eyes and slaughtered ….. then
comes your turn ….
O, Dear Sister …..
If you weren’t religiously committed …… be respectful.
And a final word:
Dear sister …… Don’t make God your opponent.
Yours Zealously
Sami Bin Hassan Khadra
﴾ O Prophet ! Say to your wives: If you desire this world’s life and its adornments, then come, I will give you a provision and allow you to depart a goodly departing (28) And if you desire Allah and His Apostle and the latter abode, then surely Allah has prepared for the doers of good among you a mighty reward (29) O wives of the prophet ! Whoever of you commits an open indecency, the punishment shall be increased to her doubly, and this is easy to Allah (30) And whoever of you is obedient to Allah and His Apostle and does good, We will give to her reward doubly and we have prepared for her an honorable sustenance (31) ﴿
The Allies (28-31)
الأحزاب
In the Name of God, Most Merciful,
Most Gracious
There was no way to prevent me to write, after it became a required duty, to be questioned about by God in the day-after.
Grace Him, He is the Revengous Zealous.
And in the holy text: “God is zealous, and loves every zealous person”.
And the Prophet (PBUHH) said: “My father Abraham was zealous, and I’m zealous from him, and God degrades the religious who aren’t zealous”.
The Dress
O, Dear Sister …..
Watch the way you dress, and don’t wear what reflects the attention of the degraded and low people; those who wish to flirt with you, so you become a free gazing-stock to them!!!
Protect yourself with dignified clothing and the spiritual veil “hijab” which your God privileged you with, and it was for nothing but your benefit as He isn’t in need to you.
Leave the clothes which show parts of your body, and the short clothing that doesn’t give you anything but shame and separation from God; moreover, the flimsy transparent clothes, which turn heads around you, and the tight clothes, which reveal your honorable body parts, so it becomes tempting to others…. (This not only concerns females, but also in many cases, the males as well).
Also, be aware, if you weren’t an Aba wearer, not to wear bright colors and outrageous cloth styles which divert people’s attention to you…… Don’t be fooled by those who say that wearing as such is for beauty reasons!!!
For what contradicts God’s legislation holds no good whatever titled or given excuses for…. Infact, it is satan’s embellishment.
And my dear respectful sister, you have to avoid, what has become widely spread, from revealing wedding and celebration dresses and what is called “mawled” (nativity)…. Even if you were only with women, as much of these is inappropriate clothing…. which is only permissible infront of your husband… True, it is allowed for women to reveal certain body parts infront of other women, but not in a way that humiliates you infront of them…. This is given the title of “fashionable clothing”, which is defined as unsuitable clothing in shape, color and embroidery….
And it is so strange what is being said: that everything becomes permissible in such occasions!!! As you see women transforming, in an hour, into “super models”; not only that, but also they “burst” into dancing actions and screams of what they call chanting or singing….
And the aware and respectful girl, and with no effort, feels the sense of “vengeance” that such women exhibit, as if they are revenging to what the religion has legislated on them!!
O, Gracious Al-Mighty, highly exalted are You, above what they ascribe.
My kind sister,
Similar to what has just been mentioned, is the “swim suit” wore in the ladies’ pools and special places…. Some is improper unless for the husband, while others are indecent at all…. Restrict yourself with the appropriate….
And she who is just, fair and of innate qualities won’t do wrong….
My dear sister,
To give the advice its due for full, it is necessary to reflect your attention to “high heels” which alarm people on the streets, building entrances, in big halls or selling shops…. if you walked on marble or similar floors.
God Al-Mighty said: ﴾ And let them not strike their feet so that what they hide of their ornaments may be known ﴿. The Light-31 (النور)
The Islamic Veil (Hijab)
O, Dear Sister…..
Preserve the Islamic veil which God has privileged you with, as it is your inviolable fortress, for your hair is one of the beauty aspects in you.
Also, you have to wear loose, flowy clothes which don’t particularize your body, especially the beauty areas….. as this is the right Islamic veil.
God Al-Mighty said: ﴾ O Prophet! Say to your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers that they let down upon them their over-garments; this will be more proper, that they may be known, and thus they will not be given trouble ﴿. The Allies-59 (اللأحزاب)
There is no problem with wearing trousers under the clothes in the intention of concealing oneself; as it was told that a woman was on top of a donkey, and it fell, so the woman fell as well, and the Prophet (PBUHH) shunned his face away; so his companions said: O Prophet, she’s wearing trousers, he said: “God forgive the women who wear trousers, three times….Fellow people, do wear trousers as it is the most concealing and preservative of your clothes, and protect your women by wearing them, if they go out”.
Scents and Perfumes
O, Dear Sister…..
Avoid the exhalation of odors which tempt the others, if you walked by them, or were in class, a teacher or student, or in a congregation or in the elevator…. as how many times did your odor arouse the men!!!
You have to be totally precautious when using perfumes or scents outside your home, whether used directly or indirectly:
‘Directly’ is when you put it intentionally on your clothes and body.
And ‘Indirectly’ is what remains within the clothes from previous usages, and such clothes are wore without paying attention to their scents.
So, my chaste sister, if you wanted to wear perfume, don’t go out of your home or change your clothes or wear the perfume whose scent fade away quickly, as what has been said that women’s scent has color but no odor.
While she who becomes an infatuation for males, is whom the Prophet (PBUHH) had said about: “Whichever woman who is scented and passes by a group, and they smell her scent, she is an adulteress”. Mezan al hikma- hadeeth 11034
Make-up and Embellishment
O, Dear Sister…..
Avoid wearing make-up and embellishments as they are of the greatest infatuations in human societies, and the precursors to adultery, God forbid us.
So, don’t wear make-up and go out for the ill and evil of men could be dangerously tempted, and how many crimes had happened because of women’s adornments?!
Concerning the arts of adornments widely spread these days, they have become countless: from lipsticks to blush powders to eye-liners, to what changes the eye-color, to what has become popular lately from products which change the nature of certain organs as the lips and others….
Your Grateful God said: ﴾ And say to believing women that they cast down their looks and guard their private parts and do not display their ornaments except what appears thereof… ﴿. The Light-31 (النور)
However, the products which show no external effects are permissible.
From the most pr************ent features of embellishments is wearing rings, of different sizes and shapes; and sadly, this has become really apparent even among the “faithful believers”…. who you see on them signs of the Islamic veil….. but wearing in their fingers many rings at the same time!!!
O…. We belong to God and to God we shall return.
Your Walking Manner
O, Dear Sister…..
While walking, don’t swing or slant to the right or left as does, God forbid, the actresses, the low women and the top-models.
Don’t do alertive movements or actions, or even dreaming glances, and don’t talk or laugh with a loud voice; moreover, don’t over-move your hands and body and avoid attractive smiles…
Infact, the conventional rules of behavior for women and men are alike:
Lower one’s eye-sight, equipoised walking, respect and tranquility and humble walking.
God Al-Mighty said: ﴾ And the servants of the Beneficent God are they who walk on the earth in humbleness ﴿. The Criterion-63 (الفرقان); i.e., they are humble and lenient with people.
And He said also: ﴾ And pursue the right course in your going about and lower your voice ﴿. Luqman-19 (لقمان)
Also, never giggle and swagger, for the land with what’s beneath it and above it would curse you.
God Al-Mighty said: ﴾ And don’t turn your face away from people in contempt, nor go about in the land exulting overmuch ﴿. Luqman-18 (لقمان); i.e., exceeding moderation limits, which is pr************ent by thoughtlessness, the actions, sayings, movements…. and walking particularly.
Your Sitting Manner
O, Dear Sister…..
Pay attention to your sitting manner infront of people in public places, if you sit on a chair, or on the ground or on the wall-side…
Don’t straighten your legs or raise them even if you were wearing trousers under your clothes. Sit in the manner which preserves your decency, prestige and esteem.
And it is out of Islamic morals not to sit in suspicious places, and in public streets under the eye-sight of strangers, and don’t be late when you go out to shopping malls.
Your Speech
O, Dear Sister…..
Don’t attenuate in your speech by pronouncing words indifferently: as intending to speak with a certain accent or slant language or….
Your Al-Mighty God said: ﴾ be not soft in your speech, lest he in whose heart is a disease yearn﴿. The Allies-32 (اللأحزاب)
Avoid too much talking, joking and laughing… because if done frequently among men and women leads to inclemency, loss of piety, increase in sins, faults, blames and boredom….
Also my sister, avoid using words in a different language that yours intentionally just to alert other people’s attention to you and your multi-linguistics!!
Sadly, this has become widely spread among the “believers”, for instance using words as: Merci, Salut, Bonjour, Bonsoir, Au revoir, etc…..
Ignorant Nicknames
O, Dear sister…..
Don’t allow and accept that people call you with silly and ignorant nicknames as: Moni, Roro, Sou Sou, FiFi, Mimo, and Zizi.
Don’t accept to become known, among people in your community, with such names, since you would lose their respect and be certain that you are not a child anymore.
Sadly, even the religious names, dear sister, have been replaced by such ignorant nicknames, as:
The gracious name “Fatima” became Fati,
And the gracious name “Zeinab” became Zaza,
And the gracious name “Khadija” became Dada,
And the gracious name “Sumaya” became Semsem,
And the gracious name “Mariam” became Roro.
By following such acts, we are encouraging the unbelievers’ rites, which are islamically forbidden.
And It is God Al-Mighty who said: ﴾ And say to my servants that they speak that which is best; surely the shaitan sows dissensions among them; surely the shaitan is an open enemy to man ﴿. The Israelites-53 (الإسراء)
And He also said: ﴾ And when they hear idle talk they turn aside from it and say: We shall have our deeds and you shall have your deeds; peace be on you, we don’t desire the ignorant ﴿. The Narrative-55 (القصص)
It is recommended as well to have a look at the booklet titled “The Blessed Names for the Delighted Eyes” which contains hundreds of beautiful and appropriate names.
What is known as “Admiration”
O, Dear Sister…..
Avoid what is supposedly known as “admiration” to the corrupted and unbelieving characters from singers and dancers or what is known as “artists”…. since who loves a certain group of people is crammed with them…. God forbid you from them in life and the after-life.
God Gracious said: ﴾ Say: everyone acts according to his manner ﴿. The Israelites-84 (الإسراء)
And He also said: ﴾ Unclean things are for unclean ones and unclean ones are for unclean things, and the good things are for good ones and the good ones are for good things ﴿. The Light-26 (النور)
And Imam Ali (A.S) said: “Never love God’s enemies, or be sincere to other than God’s loyalists, as he who loves a certain group of people is crammed with them”. Mezan al hikma - hadeeth 3060
So how about you dear sister, with your admiration to those who corrupt the land and are not ashamed of showing their sins but infact they encourage it and protect it…..
How can you combat with God Al-Mighty by putting their defaced pictures on your books, notebooks or on the walls of your bedroom?!
Doesn’t such an act shed off your coyness and timidity?!
Do you fear the people and God is the One who is worth your fear?! And it is He who said: ﴾ Have you not seen those who be-friend a people with whom Allah is wroth? They are neither of you nor of them, and they swear falsely while they know (14) Allah has prepared for them a severe punishment; surely what they do is evil (15) They make their oaths to serve as a cover so they turn away from Allah’s way; therefore they shall have an abasing chastisement (16) Neither their wealth nor their children shall avail them aught against Allah; they are the inmates of the fire, therein they shall abide (17) On the day that Allah will raise them up all, then they will swear to Him as they swear to you, and they think that they have something; surely they are the liars (18) The shaitan has gained the mastery over them, so he has made them forget the remembrance of Allah; they are the shaitan’s party; now surely the shaitan’s party are the losers (19) Surely (as for) those who act in opposition to Allah and His Apostle; they shall be among the most abased (20) Allah has written down; I will most certainly prevail, I and My Apostle; surely Allah is Strong, Mighty (21) You shall not find a people who believe in Allah and the latter day befriending those who act in opposition to Allah and His Apostle, even though they were their own fathers, or their sons, or their brothers, or their kinsfolk; these are they into whose hearts He has imposed faith, and whom He was strengthened with an inspiration from Him; and He will cause them to enter gardens beneath which rivers flow, abiding therein; Allah is well pleased with them and they are well pleased with Him; these are Allah’s party; now surely the party of Allah are the successful one (22) ﴿ . The Pleading One, 14-22 (المجادلة)
Is the true muslim’s ambition satisfied with the singer or dancer?
I fear for a day in which you say: ﴾ O! Would that I were dust! ﴿ . The Great Event-40 (النبأ)
What is known as “Love”
O, Dear Sister…..
Avoid what has become known these days as “Love”, which is an unveiled or masked type of abuse and corruption, which encourages male and female youngsters to commit faults and sins….
While true love is a good noble deed for which the person is rewarded, when coming from a true and honest intention…. to build an Islamic family on the supplications of Allah and His Apostle.
So dear sister, don’t listen to those who beautify words and tempt you with phrases of lust and admiration…. just to spend his time with what he desires, and then he turns his back and forgets you.
Welcoming Guests
O, Dear Sister…..
It is inappropriate that you receive and welcome male guests, when you are alone at home…. Also, it is inappropriate that you serve them by offering drinks or sweets…… and don’t hold long courteous conversations with them…. excuse yourself out of such a situation by apologizing and don’t feel shy.
However, what happens in our societies today is from the evil customs which we imported from the evil countries… and this is why corruption and depravity are augmenting, God forbid us.
God Al-Mighty said: ﴾ And when you ask of them any goods, ask them from behind a curtain, this is purer for your hearts and for their hearts ﴿. The Allies-53 (اللأحزاب)
And in a text for Imam Ali (A.S) to his son Imam Hassan (A.S): “The strong commitment to the veil is much better for you and the women, than falling in suspicions, and them (the women) leaving the house is as important as the entrance of people you don’t trust on them, and if you were able to prevent them from knowing males other than you, do it”. The Main Road to Eloquence- book 31 (نهج البلاغة)
Sleeping Outside your Home
O, Dear Sister…..
Avoid sleeping outside your home….. unless it was for an emergent or special case; only exceptionally and rarely.
Avoid it because your home is more safe for you since you know all its exits and corners… and it is not good that you become known as a person who easily sleeps outside the home….. to preserve your religion and life…. And because such an act facilitates others to approach and reach you…. Away from the supervision, experience and care of your parents….
However, if you exceptionally had to sleep outside for a certain work, travel or other reason, get introduced to the entrances, exists, ablution places and toilets, and supply yourself with all your needs for your prayers and others, before you intend to remove your clothes off….. and pay attention to that a lot.
What is known as “Friend ship”
O, Dear Sister…..
Be cautious from what is known as “friendships” between males and females….. imitating by this what is shown in the media and movies…. Because friendship in such circumstances is illusional, and infact it is a shield…… “innocent” just to earn sallies and desires….
And what happens around us is a just witness on this.
But the true, honest friend is he who protects you, advices you and prefers you on himself, for the good of your life and the after-life.
But he who entertains himself with you as done with others…. and declares dissoluteness…. And boasts in sins…. is more an enemy that a friend.
Corrupted Movies
O, Dear Sister…..
Don’t watch corrupted and dissolute movies which are presented on the television and cinemas, these days….. because and under the feeling that it is my Islamic responsibility, I honestly speak to tell you that these movies teach adultery, committing crimes, dishonesty, impudence, impatience, precipitance and disdaining other people’s rights and facilitates sins.
It also removes timidity among children….. and between them and their parents….
Also, our surrounding is a just witness of these results.
How about if boys and girls sat side-by-side to watch such disgraceful scenes and shameless sights?!!
Forgive us our Lord: ﴾ Corruption has appeared in the land and the sea on account of what the hands of men have wrought, that He may make them taste a part of that which they have done, so that they may return ﴿. The Romans-41 (الروم)
And we ask: Why do crimes and diseases widely spread?!!!
Mixed Parties
O, Dear Sister…..
Don’t attend mixed parties because it is an “inventive” method to pick up girls, trap them in one’s net… to seclude with them…. or depart them away from their parents in a “unique manner”….
Anyway, such parties have a shameless and crazy nature…. and it is self-witnessed for those who are honest with themselves: ﴾ Most surely there is a reminder in this for him who has a heart or he gives ear and is a witness ﴿. Qaf-37 (قاف)
Such parties will harm you sooner or later because:
You are losing your future by standing to the side of God’s enemies…
And you are losing your present by humiliating yourself in the eyes of the fellows surrounding you, who tempted and used you…. and made you cry…..
So from any corner you think about it, you will be the loser if you were a “party fan” for: ﴾ who will then help me against Allah if I disobey Him? Therefore you don’t add to me other than loss ﴿. Hud-63 (هود)
Far Trips
O, Dear Sister…..
Be very careful from far trips that require days and nights, and the long ones too… especially since male-female associations and medleys, which are forbidden, have become obligatory…. and other dangers are also probable…. and what has reached us from situations does not indicate welfare…
This includes the “visiting trips” to the holy shrines which should preserve at least, the least level of morals, good actions, sincerity and noble conduct to achieve what is wished for, from spirituality and attention….
This also includes “school trips” which, almost all of them, have become islamically forbidden, and the little left are suspicious…. Infact they became the sites for people with bad intentions… who actually plan to make use of them…. to do what isn’t permissible in the school campus!!! Where infront of the supervisors, dancing, singing, forbidden touches, strange actions and brazen laughs become permissible… of course, out of “innocent and good intentions”!!! because they are all “friends”!!! The truth is that they make use of you for entertainment to spend their time with you for one day!!! Did you forget that: ﴾ On that day you shall be exposed to view- no secret of yours shall remain hidden ﴿. The Sure Calamity-18 (الحاقة)
In our days, such trips have become widely spread for different occasions as “Eid”, school holidays, summer vacations, week ends, etc…
And he who has no reason for a trip “invents” one!!!
﴾ These are who make mischief in the land and don’t act aright ﴿. The Poets-152 (الشعراء)
Kind and Courteous Actions between people
O, Dear Sister…..
If you were engaged or married, God bless you, as your husband is legitimate on you and you are as well on him…. and both of you are rewarded and granted for every action, movement or word by the will of God and His Strength….. But:
Don’t do what is special for both of you…. infront of other people, as others do, because it scratches your modesty and ventures others on you….
Actions as touching, hugging, kissing, feeding each other, winking, putting one’s head on the other’s chest or lap and others….
All of these actions are permissible for both of you when you are alone… not by becoming a “play” or “show” for people, since God Al-Mighty forbade the entrance of the forbidden people on you, until they take permission for the entry to protect you.
The Marriage of your Husband
O, Dear Sister…..
If your husband remarried…. I won’t speak for long here, for the sensitivity of this subject and its need for a detailed explanation; therefore, I can say briefly:
1- Don’t say about the Prophet’s prescribed rule, of re-marriage, that it is out of dishonesty to remarry…. because it is an honor.
Sadly, and too sadly, for what is being published, said and translated, that a second marriage is a marital cheat and dishonesty: ﴾ a grievous word it is that comes out of their mouths; they speak nothing but a lie ﴿. The Cave-5 (الكهف)
2- Don’t seclude yourself from your religion by saying what you are not supposed to say, by just following the desires of your spirit and don’t leave in your heart ﴾ do not allow any spite to remain in our hearts towards those who believe ﴿. The Banishment-10 (الحشر)
3- Don’t be a free and cheap bugle to the talkative, curious, back-stabbers, envious women and people… those who care about “your benefit”!!!
God forbid us from the devils of man and demon (jinn): ﴾ some of them suggesting to others varnished falsehood to deceive them ﴿. The Cattle-112 (الأنعام)
4- Care for your husband’s religion and commitment to his after-life and don’t be selfish….
And resemble that good woman who said to her husband: “I swore to God that you won’t enter hell because of me”.
The Divorced and the Widow
O, Dear Sister…..
If you were divorced or a widow…. Don’t get affected by the actions and sayings of the insolents surrounding you… as they are:
Either ignorant, or silly, or psychologically ill, or they want to prove their manhood, as they think!!!
As long as you are maintaining your behavior, conduct and respect, don’t surrender to the “emotional embezzlement” from some “jealous” and “courteous” people or co-workers or their bosses… even if it was costly, but surrendering is even more costy….. God help you, stand by you and guide you.
And always remember that God Al-Mighty said: ﴾ Surely they who concocted the lie are a party from among you. Do not regard it an evil to you; nay, it is good for you. Every man of them shall have what he has earned of sin…..
When you received it with your tongues and spoke with your mouths what you had no knowledge of, and you deemed it an easy matter while with Allah it was grievous….
Allah admonishes you that you should not return to the like of it ever again if you are believers….
Surely as for those who love that scandal should circulate respecting those who believe, they shall have a grievous chastisement in this world and the hereafter….
Surely those who accuse chaste believing women, unaware of the evil, are cursed in this world and the hereafter, and they shall have a grievous chastisement. On the day when their tongues and their hands and their feet shall bear witness against them as to what they did ﴿. The Light, 11-24 (النور)
Women’s Rights
O, Dear Sister…..
From the issues that you hear about a lot in our communities and maybe you are working for is what is known as “Women’s rights”.
With no doubt, the gracious Islamic religion has given all the people their rights, and legislated for them their laws, and specified the good from the bad for all the human kind, males and females, what benefits them and what doesn’t….. even if enemies denied this.
So it is natural for Islam to have given the woman all her rights…. and there is no need to keep on repeating this phrase that we hear a lot.
But the danger from which you should be warned against is:
Some of the people in our societies and surroundings imitate the west’s culture, style, knowledge and sayings…. maybe without them feeling it!
Or they want a stage to speak out from or a title to hold…. so they find “women’s rights” as a suitable savior.
1- It is your right to be astonished when you hear them calling out for the women’s right in education!
So tell them: when was education for women forbidden, for us to demand it?
While, when it was forbidden and fought against in the west, it wasn’t only forbidden for women but also for men! So why are we judged for their acts?
And let us suppose it was “forbidden” or there were remarks on it, from the muslims’ view in their countries, it wasn’t on education itself, but on the method or content…… if it trespasses the Islamic borders.
And this was, is still, and will stay always as long as God’s legislations exist….
And who is the “believer” who has the guts to contradict that, God forbid us, whatever the subject was.
2- It is your right sister, to question their demands for your right in employment!
Tell them: when was the right of employment for women prohibited? And who banned her from working?
Doesn’t our history witness that women can work if they wanted, when they wanted….. and this is what we see from our past, present and in our villages…
However, if it was meant the methods and types of jobs…. Alterations have happened on both men and women and the entire human being…. as the concept of “employment” and its evolution and methods changed… What do men and women have to do with that?!
And if others have prohibited women from working, do we get the blame for others mistakes?!
However, if the “prohibition” was, in certain cases, to preserve the women’s dignity, honor, humanity and reputation…. This is infact the woman’s right, and this is requires.
Moreover, the distinction in the salary, medical insurance, and other privileges among men and women is truly a western scheme, which does not exist in Islam. So who dignified and honored the woman more Islam or the western “civilization”?
3- It is your right sister, if they demanded your right of investing your money with full power, to smile with astonishment for such a demand!
Because women are free to invest and spend their money, heritage, gifts, salaries, belongings,…… and it is no one’s right to forbid her from that, or force her for what he wants, whether a husband or other…..
She has her own will to spend, give, donate…. and the interdiction on women’s money is just a western custom….
And if a man tried to plunder her from her right in investment, he’s judged as if another woman tried the same, as injustice, regardless male or female.
And what has Islam to do with this? Is there one Islamic casuistry which prohibits women from investing her money and where is it?
4- Dear sister, it is your right to find it strange when you hear them talk about forcing girls to marry a specific man, and that she hasn’t seen him before the wedding night, and that she doesn’t know him… to other stories and riddles.
Is there any jurisprudent that plundered the women their right in choosing their husbands, and to say: Yes or No, and that the legal marriage certificate is done without her consent…..?!
If this supposedly did happen in certain tribes and families, know that it is an ignorant tradition…. Strange!! How Islam is blamed and judged for it, when as Islam evolved it worked to demolish it.
5- And sometimes they struggle for “women’s rights” because her husband hits her!
Grace the Lord, what does religion have to do with that, and this happens in the “developed and civilized” countries more than in our countries.
Doesn’t America have the largest percentage in hitting wives in the world, and it is the “civilized” country of the new international regime?!
Doesn’t it happen in a larger percentage and in more dangerous and brutal methods…. In Germany, Russia and others?!
So, why do they continuously blame the “eastern community”, ‘the eastern woman” and “the eastern man”?!
And perhaps this is an indirect preterition to the religion, history and inheritance of that community…. from the crusades and the malevolent.
﴾ vehement hatred has already appeared from out of their mouths, and what their breasts conceal is greater still ﴿. The Family of Imran-118 (آل عمران)
O, Dear Sister…..
What is being aroused under the title of “Women’s rights”, as discussed above, shouldn’t make you surrender to it, imitating by following it others, even on the account of your religion.
Infact, these issues and others, are displayed against God’s book and His Prophet’s supplications; what they accepted, we consent to with pride, and what they refuse, we abandon with honor.
And we don’t accept a religion other than God’s religion.
O, Dear Sister…..
My honorable sister: if something devious happens in our society, or injustice or corruption, we have to cooperate and work together side-by-side to mend it, prevent it or drive it away.
And this is our duty and obligation, since our dear Islam defended the human, granted him, raised him, exalted him and charged him with duties, without discrimination between the man’s “camp” and the woman’s “camp”.
Injustice on the society is injustice on everyone, and “what women suffer from in our societies isn’t separated from what men suffer from”, as they both suffer equally from extorted or diminished rights, which are the result of the direct or indirect domination of the enemies on our capabilities and our custodians….
So all the “just people”, men and women, are obliged to refute the “unjust people”, men and women.
As God Al-Mighty made the just people enemies with the unjust people and didn’t make women enemies of men.
However, if misconduct or aggression happens, it is out of weak faith and commitment, and its resolution is in the propaganda to Islam and encouraging people to embrace it.
“And Islam did not experience, in its history, a special case concerning women” and it did not follow the disruptive method adapted in the western scheme…
Islam treated the woman as a human, as a responsible and charged creature, and it didn’t differentiate between them and men, in any responsibility or duty, and it didn’t direct her as an independent creature….
Women’s rights in Islam are part of the people’s rights, whether men, women, children, boys or girls.
O, Dear Sister…..
Isn’t it time to end the disputes about issues hidden behind the motto of “women’s rights”…. End the disputes, not only out of concern on the muslim woman, God bless and protect her, but also in justice to Islam which receives a great deal of calumny, slander, and injustice…. even with indirect measures, for their inability to directly assault Islam.
For so long we have heard that the qualities of the “liberated” woman is not to marry at an early age, not to give birth to many children, she’s the one who her husband cant have control on, who goes out of her house whenever she wants, and she’s the one who is liberated from her husband’s predominance as she isn’t a main in the house!!!
Their motive from such mottos is to confute Islam…. in addition to accusations and delusions which Islam is innocent of, as the wolf is innocent of the blood of Jacob’s son.
O, Dear Sister…..
There is an issue which perplexes and puzzles me; I haven’t found a solution for until now!
Why don’t the strugglers for the “women’s rights”, if they were honest, defend her at least publicitly, by banning all the hackneyed forms and types of “Beauty pageants and contests”?!
And why don’t they confront the cheap fructification of the woman’s body in the media, and the disgraced photos, the impudent celebrity aggregations, the wide spread corruption, and the increasing insolence and augmenting insults?!
So, if such offences weren’t from the “woman’s rights”, why are they silent?! While actually, some signs indicate that they are supportive, and sometimes participants and planners who hasten towards them!
And the media and assaults are a fair and true witness.
However, if such acts were out of “women’s rights”, just honestly inform us.
And then, for every event, there is a discourse.
Woman’s Employment
O, Dear Sister…..
As previously mentioned, it was clearly stated that you can work, and no one can prohibit you, unless God’s gracious legislations does.
But for your benefit, I wish to reflect your attention to the following:
1- Your job shouldn’t affect your respect and composure…. Because many of you fall into unwanted troubles, and only some of you are the ones who are able to speak powerfully, due to certain special aspects in them.
2- Your job atmosphere should be equipoised, because the companionship and associations can have very dangerous consequences….. on your hereafter and faith, even if it wasn’t apparent in our clamorous life, in which we live ﴾ They know the outward of this world’s life, but of the hereafter they are absolutely heedless ﴿. The Romans-7 (الروم)
3- You are much greater than relinquishing what you were brought on from faith, as some did sadly to win a great but transitory offer, whatever the surrounding stresses or offers were.
So how is faith sold? God forbid you, ﴾ And they sold him for a small price, a few pieces of silver﴿. Yusuf-20 (يوسف)
4- Don’t forget your duties and obligations towards your home, children and husband…. because their loss is your loss before all.
And all the jobs that you may have, however “great” they were, someone else can do them.
But your family’s affairs can’t be done by anyone but you, even if you had the assistance of servants and maids…. as everything from you and from your own hands revives the sense of compassion and tranquility to your husband and children.
Can anyone other than you accomplish this? It is recommended to refer to “The Suggester of Evil Thoughts“pgs 148-149
5- Any job goes and comes, changes and transforms, improves and worsens….. while the family, children and husband, don’t endure bargains and threats.
6- The western woman’s materialistic view of everything including marriage, divorce, expenses, and household…. isn’t your model, since you are first a muslim, second a muslim, third and for ever a muslim.
7- By preserving your husband and children, you preserve Islam and the society, and by neglecting them you harm Islam and the society…. even if your salary was huge!
8- There is a widely-spread misunderstanding of the concept of the “working woman”, which is given only to the “productive” woman who works outside her home and takes a salary.
Based on this, the woman who cares for her home and family is “unemployed” because she isn’t money “productive”!
And this reminds us of those who said that “praying” is a “waste of time” and delay of production, and so is fasting…. because such issues weaken the national economy!!!
And these people neglected that the family mistress is a productive worker, with no doubt; infact, she works even more than those outside the house.
And it isn’t necessary that “work” be for a salary or a personal materialistic outcome; otherwise, where is the volunteer work, contributions and good deeds, all done to acquire God’s consent?!
9- Motherhood, which is for no one but the mother, and only the mother, is the milestone for building a human and humanity….and a good woman.
Swimming and the Beach
O, Dear Sister…..
From the issues that became so familiar lately, is going to “private” beaches, which do not allow the mingling of males and females, and it is protected away from the men’s sights.
And here, allow me to say the following:
1- Not everyone who puts a sign indicating an alleged private woman’s pool is aware of the limits and restraints and cares for them.
As some aim for business only, and might suppose that some “restraints” are unnecessary or unimportant or might allow a male person to mend an emergent breakage, is it that simple!
As not all of these people are religiously committed or muslims or know the limits of the legal and the illegal, the allowed and the prohibited, and apply them.
2- The clothing which displays the body more than the logical limits has bad consequences….. And some might reach the state of true danger, God forbid, even among women only.
And by this we warn our male youth, so how about our girls and women?
3- There are other damages, if the place and its owners weren’t trustworthy…. And it isn’t the occasion to detalize the issue, but we could pay very large prices, God forbid.
4- Such entertainment is new and foreign to us, and we have to be honest in estimating it and not with-taken under the title of fun, play and changing moods!!!!
God preserve us and you from any doubt.
Private Pictures infront of the Forbidden
Degrees of Consanguinity
O, Dear Sister…..
Following what you see in the media and movies, and in some “salons” of the official figures from displaying family and private pictures infront of forbidden degrees….. such an evil action started widely spreading in our houses!!
Wedding photos or boys’ and girls’ pictures or different pictures are being displayed in reception rooms, in a very visible manner to all visitors.
And in such an act, the foreigners and visitors become infatuated by viewing the different photos, which could tempt the eye to what these pictures may display from make-up on the faces, smiles, glances, actions, standing styles, “POSE”…. which are permissible for its owners and their allowable degrees of consanguinity, and not to all of the people.
So, if it was necessary to put pictures, let them be for the man of the house, or children, or grand-father or grand-mother….. while the private, intimate and emotional photos should be, for those who “insist” to put them, in the bed rooms only.
But also, they have to be very cautious from the entry of any foreigner into these rooms, perhaps to mend something, move an object, etc…
Smoking
O, Dear Sister…..
Smoking is a bad habit, and no one denies this, even if you were a smoker yourself.
So, don’t listen to those who say that smoking removes your sorrows! If this was true, smokers would be the least people with sorrows.
And if smoking was a problem-solver! Then the people wouldn’t have been tested in this life, and life on earth would have been problem-free!
So, my dignified sister,
Don’t addict or even learn how to smoke, as it is a repulsive act, especially for women….. And it is really astonishing to see a truthful believer, strong woman in her faith who repels all the temptations of one’s evil self, how she can’t quit smoking!
I recommend you to refer to “My Dear Brother” as it has the convincing response to this issue, precisely pages 71-73, and it contains an easy and tested way to quit smoking.
Dreams and Visions
O, Dear Sister…..
The interpretation and explanation of dreams is a unique science that has its experts, and not everything that you see in your sleep will come true.
The reason of this talk here is the European exaggeration, for some women who depend on their dreams, until it became the only issue of their concern.
Dreams are numerous, and they surely have an explanation, but some care for them, more than they care about their decrees and what benefits them.
And it is important to alert you here, that it is not permissible to judge a person, or a case or an event or an occasion…. positively or negatively through visions or depending on dreams.
Be with God Al-Mighty
O, Dear Sister…..
Be with God Al-Mighty, and don’t be on God, The Gracious and all my concern is: ﴾ I deliver to you the messages of my Lord and I am a faithful advisor to you ﴿. The Elevated Places-68(الأعراف)
Even if some said about indecencies: ﴾ We found our fathers doing this and Allah has enjoined it on us, say: surely Allah does not enjoin indecency ﴿. The Elevated Places-28 (الأعراف)
﴾ If you love Allah, then follow me, Allah will love you and forgive your faults ﴿. The Family of Imran-31 (آل عمران)
And Peace be upon our Prophet Mohammad and his kind and holy family.
Mount Safi- Mount Amel,
The 3rd of Shawwal 1416
O Wives of the Prophet! You are not like any other of the women; if you will be on your guard, then be not soft in your speech, lest he in whose heart is a disease yearn; and speak a good word (32) And stay in your houses and do not display your finery like the displaying of the ignorance of yore; and keep up prayer, and pay the poor-rate, and obey Allah and His Apostle. Allah only desires to keep away the uncleanness from you, O people of the House! And to purify you a (thorough) purifying. (33) And keep to mind what is recited in your houses of the communications of Allah and the wisdom; surely Allah is Knower of subtleties, Aware (34) Surely the men who submit and the women who submit, and the believing men and the believing women, and the obeying men and the obeying women, and the truthful men and the truthful women, and the patient men and the patient women, and the humble men and the humble women, and the almsgiving men and the almsgiving women, and the fasting men and the fasting women, and the men who guard their private parts and the women who guard, and the men who remember Allah much and the women who remember – Allah has prepared for them forgiveness and a mighty reward. (35) And it behooves not a believing man and a believing woman that they should have any choice in their matter when Allah and His Apostle have decided a matter; and whoever disobeys Allah and His Apostle, he surely strays off a manifest straying. (36)
The Allies (32-36)
O, Dear Sister …..
I write to you, full of pain of what criminals and unbelievers (kafirs) caused to you ……
O, Dear Sister …..
I write with a burning ache in my heart, out of care, concern and defense to you….. and I see the effects of the enemies in you…..
O, Dear Sister …..
I write to you feeling choked to see you a toy in the hands of criminals …..
O, Dear Sister …..
I write and my heart is deeply aching that I have recognized the effect of the immoral media on you, which had made you its prisoner, changing you as it wishes …..
I write to you with pain, not with a pen while I illustrate the sacrifices of the religious leaders, martyrs and the wisdom throughout history, who delivered Islam to you to save your dignity and honor ….. while you are giving up all these sacrifices and blood for the kafirs and !!!!!
O, Dear Sister …..
If you don’t pity yourself, feel ashamed from your God …..
If you weren’t religious, at least be of the dignified people ……
If you don’t care for yourself, respect the past generations and the muslims
around you …..
If you weren’t truthful with yourself, don’t give up the following generations...
If you weren’t helpful for your religion and the religious, don’t be against
them …. that they be insulted infront of your eyes and slaughtered ….. then
comes your turn ….
O, Dear Sister …..
If you weren’t religiously committed …… be respectful.
And a final word:
Dear sister …… Don’t make God your opponent.
Yours Zealously
Sami Bin Hassan Khadra
﴾ O Prophet ! Say to your wives: If you desire this world’s life and its adornments, then come, I will give you a provision and allow you to depart a goodly departing (28) And if you desire Allah and His Apostle and the latter abode, then surely Allah has prepared for the doers of good among you a mighty reward (29) O wives of the prophet ! Whoever of you commits an open indecency, the punishment shall be increased to her doubly, and this is easy to Allah (30) And whoever of you is obedient to Allah and His Apostle and does good, We will give to her reward doubly and we have prepared for her an honorable sustenance (31) ﴿
The Allies (28-31)
الأحزاب
In the Name of God, Most Merciful,
Most Gracious
There was no way to prevent me to write, after it became a required duty, to be questioned about by God in the day-after.
Grace Him, He is the Revengous Zealous.
And in the holy text: “God is zealous, and loves every zealous person”.
And the Prophet (PBUHH) said: “My father Abraham was zealous, and I’m zealous from him, and God degrades the religious who aren’t zealous”.
The Dress
O, Dear Sister …..
Watch the way you dress, and don’t wear what reflects the attention of the degraded and low people; those who wish to flirt with you, so you become a free gazing-stock to them!!!
Protect yourself with dignified clothing and the spiritual veil “hijab” which your God privileged you with, and it was for nothing but your benefit as He isn’t in need to you.
Leave the clothes which show parts of your body, and the short clothing that doesn’t give you anything but shame and separation from God; moreover, the flimsy transparent clothes, which turn heads around you, and the tight clothes, which reveal your honorable body parts, so it becomes tempting to others…. (This not only concerns females, but also in many cases, the males as well).
Also, be aware, if you weren’t an Aba wearer, not to wear bright colors and outrageous cloth styles which divert people’s attention to you…… Don’t be fooled by those who say that wearing as such is for beauty reasons!!!
For what contradicts God’s legislation holds no good whatever titled or given excuses for…. Infact, it is satan’s embellishment.
And my dear respectful sister, you have to avoid, what has become widely spread, from revealing wedding and celebration dresses and what is called “mawled” (nativity)…. Even if you were only with women, as much of these is inappropriate clothing…. which is only permissible infront of your husband… True, it is allowed for women to reveal certain body parts infront of other women, but not in a way that humiliates you infront of them…. This is given the title of “fashionable clothing”, which is defined as unsuitable clothing in shape, color and embroidery….
And it is so strange what is being said: that everything becomes permissible in such occasions!!! As you see women transforming, in an hour, into “super models”; not only that, but also they “burst” into dancing actions and screams of what they call chanting or singing….
And the aware and respectful girl, and with no effort, feels the sense of “vengeance” that such women exhibit, as if they are revenging to what the religion has legislated on them!!
O, Gracious Al-Mighty, highly exalted are You, above what they ascribe.
My kind sister,
Similar to what has just been mentioned, is the “swim suit” wore in the ladies’ pools and special places…. Some is improper unless for the husband, while others are indecent at all…. Restrict yourself with the appropriate….
And she who is just, fair and of innate qualities won’t do wrong….
My dear sister,
To give the advice its due for full, it is necessary to reflect your attention to “high heels” which alarm people on the streets, building entrances, in big halls or selling shops…. if you walked on marble or similar floors.
God Al-Mighty said: ﴾ And let them not strike their feet so that what they hide of their ornaments may be known ﴿. The Light-31 (النور)
The Islamic Veil (Hijab)
O, Dear Sister…..
Preserve the Islamic veil which God has privileged you with, as it is your inviolable fortress, for your hair is one of the beauty aspects in you.
Also, you have to wear loose, flowy clothes which don’t particularize your body, especially the beauty areas….. as this is the right Islamic veil.
God Al-Mighty said: ﴾ O Prophet! Say to your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers that they let down upon them their over-garments; this will be more proper, that they may be known, and thus they will not be given trouble ﴿. The Allies-59 (اللأحزاب)
There is no problem with wearing trousers under the clothes in the intention of concealing oneself; as it was told that a woman was on top of a donkey, and it fell, so the woman fell as well, and the Prophet (PBUHH) shunned his face away; so his companions said: O Prophet, she’s wearing trousers, he said: “God forgive the women who wear trousers, three times….Fellow people, do wear trousers as it is the most concealing and preservative of your clothes, and protect your women by wearing them, if they go out”.
Scents and Perfumes
O, Dear Sister…..
Avoid the exhalation of odors which tempt the others, if you walked by them, or were in class, a teacher or student, or in a congregation or in the elevator…. as how many times did your odor arouse the men!!!
You have to be totally precautious when using perfumes or scents outside your home, whether used directly or indirectly:
‘Directly’ is when you put it intentionally on your clothes and body.
And ‘Indirectly’ is what remains within the clothes from previous usages, and such clothes are wore without paying attention to their scents.
So, my chaste sister, if you wanted to wear perfume, don’t go out of your home or change your clothes or wear the perfume whose scent fade away quickly, as what has been said that women’s scent has color but no odor.
While she who becomes an infatuation for males, is whom the Prophet (PBUHH) had said about: “Whichever woman who is scented and passes by a group, and they smell her scent, she is an adulteress”. Mezan al hikma- hadeeth 11034
Make-up and Embellishment
O, Dear Sister…..
Avoid wearing make-up and embellishments as they are of the greatest infatuations in human societies, and the precursors to adultery, God forbid us.
So, don’t wear make-up and go out for the ill and evil of men could be dangerously tempted, and how many crimes had happened because of women’s adornments?!
Concerning the arts of adornments widely spread these days, they have become countless: from lipsticks to blush powders to eye-liners, to what changes the eye-color, to what has become popular lately from products which change the nature of certain organs as the lips and others….
Your Grateful God said: ﴾ And say to believing women that they cast down their looks and guard their private parts and do not display their ornaments except what appears thereof… ﴿. The Light-31 (النور)
However, the products which show no external effects are permissible.
From the most pr************ent features of embellishments is wearing rings, of different sizes and shapes; and sadly, this has become really apparent even among the “faithful believers”…. who you see on them signs of the Islamic veil….. but wearing in their fingers many rings at the same time!!!
O…. We belong to God and to God we shall return.
Your Walking Manner
O, Dear Sister…..
While walking, don’t swing or slant to the right or left as does, God forbid, the actresses, the low women and the top-models.
Don’t do alertive movements or actions, or even dreaming glances, and don’t talk or laugh with a loud voice; moreover, don’t over-move your hands and body and avoid attractive smiles…
Infact, the conventional rules of behavior for women and men are alike:
Lower one’s eye-sight, equipoised walking, respect and tranquility and humble walking.
God Al-Mighty said: ﴾ And the servants of the Beneficent God are they who walk on the earth in humbleness ﴿. The Criterion-63 (الفرقان); i.e., they are humble and lenient with people.
And He said also: ﴾ And pursue the right course in your going about and lower your voice ﴿. Luqman-19 (لقمان)
Also, never giggle and swagger, for the land with what’s beneath it and above it would curse you.
God Al-Mighty said: ﴾ And don’t turn your face away from people in contempt, nor go about in the land exulting overmuch ﴿. Luqman-18 (لقمان); i.e., exceeding moderation limits, which is pr************ent by thoughtlessness, the actions, sayings, movements…. and walking particularly.
Your Sitting Manner
O, Dear Sister…..
Pay attention to your sitting manner infront of people in public places, if you sit on a chair, or on the ground or on the wall-side…
Don’t straighten your legs or raise them even if you were wearing trousers under your clothes. Sit in the manner which preserves your decency, prestige and esteem.
And it is out of Islamic morals not to sit in suspicious places, and in public streets under the eye-sight of strangers, and don’t be late when you go out to shopping malls.
Your Speech
O, Dear Sister…..
Don’t attenuate in your speech by pronouncing words indifferently: as intending to speak with a certain accent or slant language or….
Your Al-Mighty God said: ﴾ be not soft in your speech, lest he in whose heart is a disease yearn﴿. The Allies-32 (اللأحزاب)
Avoid too much talking, joking and laughing… because if done frequently among men and women leads to inclemency, loss of piety, increase in sins, faults, blames and boredom….
Also my sister, avoid using words in a different language that yours intentionally just to alert other people’s attention to you and your multi-linguistics!!
Sadly, this has become widely spread among the “believers”, for instance using words as: Merci, Salut, Bonjour, Bonsoir, Au revoir, etc…..
Ignorant Nicknames
O, Dear sister…..
Don’t allow and accept that people call you with silly and ignorant nicknames as: Moni, Roro, Sou Sou, FiFi, Mimo, and Zizi.
Don’t accept to become known, among people in your community, with such names, since you would lose their respect and be certain that you are not a child anymore.
Sadly, even the religious names, dear sister, have been replaced by such ignorant nicknames, as:
The gracious name “Fatima” became Fati,
And the gracious name “Zeinab” became Zaza,
And the gracious name “Khadija” became Dada,
And the gracious name “Sumaya” became Semsem,
And the gracious name “Mariam” became Roro.
By following such acts, we are encouraging the unbelievers’ rites, which are islamically forbidden.
And It is God Al-Mighty who said: ﴾ And say to my servants that they speak that which is best; surely the shaitan sows dissensions among them; surely the shaitan is an open enemy to man ﴿. The Israelites-53 (الإسراء)
And He also said: ﴾ And when they hear idle talk they turn aside from it and say: We shall have our deeds and you shall have your deeds; peace be on you, we don’t desire the ignorant ﴿. The Narrative-55 (القصص)
It is recommended as well to have a look at the booklet titled “The Blessed Names for the Delighted Eyes” which contains hundreds of beautiful and appropriate names.
What is known as “Admiration”
O, Dear Sister…..
Avoid what is supposedly known as “admiration” to the corrupted and unbelieving characters from singers and dancers or what is known as “artists”…. since who loves a certain group of people is crammed with them…. God forbid you from them in life and the after-life.
God Gracious said: ﴾ Say: everyone acts according to his manner ﴿. The Israelites-84 (الإسراء)
And He also said: ﴾ Unclean things are for unclean ones and unclean ones are for unclean things, and the good things are for good ones and the good ones are for good things ﴿. The Light-26 (النور)
And Imam Ali (A.S) said: “Never love God’s enemies, or be sincere to other than God’s loyalists, as he who loves a certain group of people is crammed with them”. Mezan al hikma - hadeeth 3060
So how about you dear sister, with your admiration to those who corrupt the land and are not ashamed of showing their sins but infact they encourage it and protect it…..
How can you combat with God Al-Mighty by putting their defaced pictures on your books, notebooks or on the walls of your bedroom?!
Doesn’t such an act shed off your coyness and timidity?!
Do you fear the people and God is the One who is worth your fear?! And it is He who said: ﴾ Have you not seen those who be-friend a people with whom Allah is wroth? They are neither of you nor of them, and they swear falsely while they know (14) Allah has prepared for them a severe punishment; surely what they do is evil (15) They make their oaths to serve as a cover so they turn away from Allah’s way; therefore they shall have an abasing chastisement (16) Neither their wealth nor their children shall avail them aught against Allah; they are the inmates of the fire, therein they shall abide (17) On the day that Allah will raise them up all, then they will swear to Him as they swear to you, and they think that they have something; surely they are the liars (18) The shaitan has gained the mastery over them, so he has made them forget the remembrance of Allah; they are the shaitan’s party; now surely the shaitan’s party are the losers (19) Surely (as for) those who act in opposition to Allah and His Apostle; they shall be among the most abased (20) Allah has written down; I will most certainly prevail, I and My Apostle; surely Allah is Strong, Mighty (21) You shall not find a people who believe in Allah and the latter day befriending those who act in opposition to Allah and His Apostle, even though they were their own fathers, or their sons, or their brothers, or their kinsfolk; these are they into whose hearts He has imposed faith, and whom He was strengthened with an inspiration from Him; and He will cause them to enter gardens beneath which rivers flow, abiding therein; Allah is well pleased with them and they are well pleased with Him; these are Allah’s party; now surely the party of Allah are the successful one (22) ﴿ . The Pleading One, 14-22 (المجادلة)
Is the true muslim’s ambition satisfied with the singer or dancer?
I fear for a day in which you say: ﴾ O! Would that I were dust! ﴿ . The Great Event-40 (النبأ)
What is known as “Love”
O, Dear Sister…..
Avoid what has become known these days as “Love”, which is an unveiled or masked type of abuse and corruption, which encourages male and female youngsters to commit faults and sins….
While true love is a good noble deed for which the person is rewarded, when coming from a true and honest intention…. to build an Islamic family on the supplications of Allah and His Apostle.
So dear sister, don’t listen to those who beautify words and tempt you with phrases of lust and admiration…. just to spend his time with what he desires, and then he turns his back and forgets you.
Welcoming Guests
O, Dear Sister…..
It is inappropriate that you receive and welcome male guests, when you are alone at home…. Also, it is inappropriate that you serve them by offering drinks or sweets…… and don’t hold long courteous conversations with them…. excuse yourself out of such a situation by apologizing and don’t feel shy.
However, what happens in our societies today is from the evil customs which we imported from the evil countries… and this is why corruption and depravity are augmenting, God forbid us.
God Al-Mighty said: ﴾ And when you ask of them any goods, ask them from behind a curtain, this is purer for your hearts and for their hearts ﴿. The Allies-53 (اللأحزاب)
And in a text for Imam Ali (A.S) to his son Imam Hassan (A.S): “The strong commitment to the veil is much better for you and the women, than falling in suspicions, and them (the women) leaving the house is as important as the entrance of people you don’t trust on them, and if you were able to prevent them from knowing males other than you, do it”. The Main Road to Eloquence- book 31 (نهج البلاغة)
Sleeping Outside your Home
O, Dear Sister…..
Avoid sleeping outside your home….. unless it was for an emergent or special case; only exceptionally and rarely.
Avoid it because your home is more safe for you since you know all its exits and corners… and it is not good that you become known as a person who easily sleeps outside the home….. to preserve your religion and life…. And because such an act facilitates others to approach and reach you…. Away from the supervision, experience and care of your parents….
However, if you exceptionally had to sleep outside for a certain work, travel or other reason, get introduced to the entrances, exists, ablution places and toilets, and supply yourself with all your needs for your prayers and others, before you intend to remove your clothes off….. and pay attention to that a lot.
What is known as “Friend ship”
O, Dear Sister…..
Be cautious from what is known as “friendships” between males and females….. imitating by this what is shown in the media and movies…. Because friendship in such circumstances is illusional, and infact it is a shield…… “innocent” just to earn sallies and desires….
And what happens around us is a just witness on this.
But the true, honest friend is he who protects you, advices you and prefers you on himself, for the good of your life and the after-life.
But he who entertains himself with you as done with others…. and declares dissoluteness…. And boasts in sins…. is more an enemy that a friend.
Corrupted Movies
O, Dear Sister…..
Don’t watch corrupted and dissolute movies which are presented on the television and cinemas, these days….. because and under the feeling that it is my Islamic responsibility, I honestly speak to tell you that these movies teach adultery, committing crimes, dishonesty, impudence, impatience, precipitance and disdaining other people’s rights and facilitates sins.
It also removes timidity among children….. and between them and their parents….
Also, our surrounding is a just witness of these results.
How about if boys and girls sat side-by-side to watch such disgraceful scenes and shameless sights?!!
Forgive us our Lord: ﴾ Corruption has appeared in the land and the sea on account of what the hands of men have wrought, that He may make them taste a part of that which they have done, so that they may return ﴿. The Romans-41 (الروم)
And we ask: Why do crimes and diseases widely spread?!!!
Mixed Parties
O, Dear Sister…..
Don’t attend mixed parties because it is an “inventive” method to pick up girls, trap them in one’s net… to seclude with them…. or depart them away from their parents in a “unique manner”….
Anyway, such parties have a shameless and crazy nature…. and it is self-witnessed for those who are honest with themselves: ﴾ Most surely there is a reminder in this for him who has a heart or he gives ear and is a witness ﴿. Qaf-37 (قاف)
Such parties will harm you sooner or later because:
You are losing your future by standing to the side of God’s enemies…
And you are losing your present by humiliating yourself in the eyes of the fellows surrounding you, who tempted and used you…. and made you cry…..
So from any corner you think about it, you will be the loser if you were a “party fan” for: ﴾ who will then help me against Allah if I disobey Him? Therefore you don’t add to me other than loss ﴿. Hud-63 (هود)
Far Trips
O, Dear Sister…..
Be very careful from far trips that require days and nights, and the long ones too… especially since male-female associations and medleys, which are forbidden, have become obligatory…. and other dangers are also probable…. and what has reached us from situations does not indicate welfare…
This includes the “visiting trips” to the holy shrines which should preserve at least, the least level of morals, good actions, sincerity and noble conduct to achieve what is wished for, from spirituality and attention….
This also includes “school trips” which, almost all of them, have become islamically forbidden, and the little left are suspicious…. Infact they became the sites for people with bad intentions… who actually plan to make use of them…. to do what isn’t permissible in the school campus!!! Where infront of the supervisors, dancing, singing, forbidden touches, strange actions and brazen laughs become permissible… of course, out of “innocent and good intentions”!!! because they are all “friends”!!! The truth is that they make use of you for entertainment to spend their time with you for one day!!! Did you forget that: ﴾ On that day you shall be exposed to view- no secret of yours shall remain hidden ﴿. The Sure Calamity-18 (الحاقة)
In our days, such trips have become widely spread for different occasions as “Eid”, school holidays, summer vacations, week ends, etc…
And he who has no reason for a trip “invents” one!!!
﴾ These are who make mischief in the land and don’t act aright ﴿. The Poets-152 (الشعراء)
Kind and Courteous Actions between people
O, Dear Sister…..
If you were engaged or married, God bless you, as your husband is legitimate on you and you are as well on him…. and both of you are rewarded and granted for every action, movement or word by the will of God and His Strength….. But:
Don’t do what is special for both of you…. infront of other people, as others do, because it scratches your modesty and ventures others on you….
Actions as touching, hugging, kissing, feeding each other, winking, putting one’s head on the other’s chest or lap and others….
All of these actions are permissible for both of you when you are alone… not by becoming a “play” or “show” for people, since God Al-Mighty forbade the entrance of the forbidden people on you, until they take permission for the entry to protect you.
The Marriage of your Husband
O, Dear Sister…..
If your husband remarried…. I won’t speak for long here, for the sensitivity of this subject and its need for a detailed explanation; therefore, I can say briefly:
1- Don’t say about the Prophet’s prescribed rule, of re-marriage, that it is out of dishonesty to remarry…. because it is an honor.
Sadly, and too sadly, for what is being published, said and translated, that a second marriage is a marital cheat and dishonesty: ﴾ a grievous word it is that comes out of their mouths; they speak nothing but a lie ﴿. The Cave-5 (الكهف)
2- Don’t seclude yourself from your religion by saying what you are not supposed to say, by just following the desires of your spirit and don’t leave in your heart ﴾ do not allow any spite to remain in our hearts towards those who believe ﴿. The Banishment-10 (الحشر)
3- Don’t be a free and cheap bugle to the talkative, curious, back-stabbers, envious women and people… those who care about “your benefit”!!!
God forbid us from the devils of man and demon (jinn): ﴾ some of them suggesting to others varnished falsehood to deceive them ﴿. The Cattle-112 (الأنعام)
4- Care for your husband’s religion and commitment to his after-life and don’t be selfish….
And resemble that good woman who said to her husband: “I swore to God that you won’t enter hell because of me”.
The Divorced and the Widow
O, Dear Sister…..
If you were divorced or a widow…. Don’t get affected by the actions and sayings of the insolents surrounding you… as they are:
Either ignorant, or silly, or psychologically ill, or they want to prove their manhood, as they think!!!
As long as you are maintaining your behavior, conduct and respect, don’t surrender to the “emotional embezzlement” from some “jealous” and “courteous” people or co-workers or their bosses… even if it was costly, but surrendering is even more costy….. God help you, stand by you and guide you.
And always remember that God Al-Mighty said: ﴾ Surely they who concocted the lie are a party from among you. Do not regard it an evil to you; nay, it is good for you. Every man of them shall have what he has earned of sin…..
When you received it with your tongues and spoke with your mouths what you had no knowledge of, and you deemed it an easy matter while with Allah it was grievous….
Allah admonishes you that you should not return to the like of it ever again if you are believers….
Surely as for those who love that scandal should circulate respecting those who believe, they shall have a grievous chastisement in this world and the hereafter….
Surely those who accuse chaste believing women, unaware of the evil, are cursed in this world and the hereafter, and they shall have a grievous chastisement. On the day when their tongues and their hands and their feet shall bear witness against them as to what they did ﴿. The Light, 11-24 (النور)
Women’s Rights
O, Dear Sister…..
From the issues that you hear about a lot in our communities and maybe you are working for is what is known as “Women’s rights”.
With no doubt, the gracious Islamic religion has given all the people their rights, and legislated for them their laws, and specified the good from the bad for all the human kind, males and females, what benefits them and what doesn’t….. even if enemies denied this.
So it is natural for Islam to have given the woman all her rights…. and there is no need to keep on repeating this phrase that we hear a lot.
But the danger from which you should be warned against is:
Some of the people in our societies and surroundings imitate the west’s culture, style, knowledge and sayings…. maybe without them feeling it!
Or they want a stage to speak out from or a title to hold…. so they find “women’s rights” as a suitable savior.
1- It is your right to be astonished when you hear them calling out for the women’s right in education!
So tell them: when was education for women forbidden, for us to demand it?
While, when it was forbidden and fought against in the west, it wasn’t only forbidden for women but also for men! So why are we judged for their acts?
And let us suppose it was “forbidden” or there were remarks on it, from the muslims’ view in their countries, it wasn’t on education itself, but on the method or content…… if it trespasses the Islamic borders.
And this was, is still, and will stay always as long as God’s legislations exist….
And who is the “believer” who has the guts to contradict that, God forbid us, whatever the subject was.
2- It is your right sister, to question their demands for your right in employment!
Tell them: when was the right of employment for women prohibited? And who banned her from working?
Doesn’t our history witness that women can work if they wanted, when they wanted….. and this is what we see from our past, present and in our villages…
However, if it was meant the methods and types of jobs…. Alterations have happened on both men and women and the entire human being…. as the concept of “employment” and its evolution and methods changed… What do men and women have to do with that?!
And if others have prohibited women from working, do we get the blame for others mistakes?!
However, if the “prohibition” was, in certain cases, to preserve the women’s dignity, honor, humanity and reputation…. This is infact the woman’s right, and this is requires.
Moreover, the distinction in the salary, medical insurance, and other privileges among men and women is truly a western scheme, which does not exist in Islam. So who dignified and honored the woman more Islam or the western “civilization”?
3- It is your right sister, if they demanded your right of investing your money with full power, to smile with astonishment for such a demand!
Because women are free to invest and spend their money, heritage, gifts, salaries, belongings,…… and it is no one’s right to forbid her from that, or force her for what he wants, whether a husband or other…..
She has her own will to spend, give, donate…. and the interdiction on women’s money is just a western custom….
And if a man tried to plunder her from her right in investment, he’s judged as if another woman tried the same, as injustice, regardless male or female.
And what has Islam to do with this? Is there one Islamic casuistry which prohibits women from investing her money and where is it?
4- Dear sister, it is your right to find it strange when you hear them talk about forcing girls to marry a specific man, and that she hasn’t seen him before the wedding night, and that she doesn’t know him… to other stories and riddles.
Is there any jurisprudent that plundered the women their right in choosing their husbands, and to say: Yes or No, and that the legal marriage certificate is done without her consent…..?!
If this supposedly did happen in certain tribes and families, know that it is an ignorant tradition…. Strange!! How Islam is blamed and judged for it, when as Islam evolved it worked to demolish it.
5- And sometimes they struggle for “women’s rights” because her husband hits her!
Grace the Lord, what does religion have to do with that, and this happens in the “developed and civilized” countries more than in our countries.
Doesn’t America have the largest percentage in hitting wives in the world, and it is the “civilized” country of the new international regime?!
Doesn’t it happen in a larger percentage and in more dangerous and brutal methods…. In Germany, Russia and others?!
So, why do they continuously blame the “eastern community”, ‘the eastern woman” and “the eastern man”?!
And perhaps this is an indirect preterition to the religion, history and inheritance of that community…. from the crusades and the malevolent.
﴾ vehement hatred has already appeared from out of their mouths, and what their breasts conceal is greater still ﴿. The Family of Imran-118 (آل عمران)
O, Dear Sister…..
What is being aroused under the title of “Women’s rights”, as discussed above, shouldn’t make you surrender to it, imitating by following it others, even on the account of your religion.
Infact, these issues and others, are displayed against God’s book and His Prophet’s supplications; what they accepted, we consent to with pride, and what they refuse, we abandon with honor.
And we don’t accept a religion other than God’s religion.
O, Dear Sister…..
My honorable sister: if something devious happens in our society, or injustice or corruption, we have to cooperate and work together side-by-side to mend it, prevent it or drive it away.
And this is our duty and obligation, since our dear Islam defended the human, granted him, raised him, exalted him and charged him with duties, without discrimination between the man’s “camp” and the woman’s “camp”.
Injustice on the society is injustice on everyone, and “what women suffer from in our societies isn’t separated from what men suffer from”, as they both suffer equally from extorted or diminished rights, which are the result of the direct or indirect domination of the enemies on our capabilities and our custodians….
So all the “just people”, men and women, are obliged to refute the “unjust people”, men and women.
As God Al-Mighty made the just people enemies with the unjust people and didn’t make women enemies of men.
However, if misconduct or aggression happens, it is out of weak faith and commitment, and its resolution is in the propaganda to Islam and encouraging people to embrace it.
“And Islam did not experience, in its history, a special case concerning women” and it did not follow the disruptive method adapted in the western scheme…
Islam treated the woman as a human, as a responsible and charged creature, and it didn’t differentiate between them and men, in any responsibility or duty, and it didn’t direct her as an independent creature….
Women’s rights in Islam are part of the people’s rights, whether men, women, children, boys or girls.
O, Dear Sister…..
Isn’t it time to end the disputes about issues hidden behind the motto of “women’s rights”…. End the disputes, not only out of concern on the muslim woman, God bless and protect her, but also in justice to Islam which receives a great deal of calumny, slander, and injustice…. even with indirect measures, for their inability to directly assault Islam.
For so long we have heard that the qualities of the “liberated” woman is not to marry at an early age, not to give birth to many children, she’s the one who her husband cant have control on, who goes out of her house whenever she wants, and she’s the one who is liberated from her husband’s predominance as she isn’t a main in the house!!!
Their motive from such mottos is to confute Islam…. in addition to accusations and delusions which Islam is innocent of, as the wolf is innocent of the blood of Jacob’s son.
O, Dear Sister…..
There is an issue which perplexes and puzzles me; I haven’t found a solution for until now!
Why don’t the strugglers for the “women’s rights”, if they were honest, defend her at least publicitly, by banning all the hackneyed forms and types of “Beauty pageants and contests”?!
And why don’t they confront the cheap fructification of the woman’s body in the media, and the disgraced photos, the impudent celebrity aggregations, the wide spread corruption, and the increasing insolence and augmenting insults?!
So, if such offences weren’t from the “woman’s rights”, why are they silent?! While actually, some signs indicate that they are supportive, and sometimes participants and planners who hasten towards them!
And the media and assaults are a fair and true witness.
However, if such acts were out of “women’s rights”, just honestly inform us.
And then, for every event, there is a discourse.
Woman’s Employment
O, Dear Sister…..
As previously mentioned, it was clearly stated that you can work, and no one can prohibit you, unless God’s gracious legislations does.
But for your benefit, I wish to reflect your attention to the following:
1- Your job shouldn’t affect your respect and composure…. Because many of you fall into unwanted troubles, and only some of you are the ones who are able to speak powerfully, due to certain special aspects in them.
2- Your job atmosphere should be equipoised, because the companionship and associations can have very dangerous consequences….. on your hereafter and faith, even if it wasn’t apparent in our clamorous life, in which we live ﴾ They know the outward of this world’s life, but of the hereafter they are absolutely heedless ﴿. The Romans-7 (الروم)
3- You are much greater than relinquishing what you were brought on from faith, as some did sadly to win a great but transitory offer, whatever the surrounding stresses or offers were.
So how is faith sold? God forbid you, ﴾ And they sold him for a small price, a few pieces of silver﴿. Yusuf-20 (يوسف)
4- Don’t forget your duties and obligations towards your home, children and husband…. because their loss is your loss before all.
And all the jobs that you may have, however “great” they were, someone else can do them.
But your family’s affairs can’t be done by anyone but you, even if you had the assistance of servants and maids…. as everything from you and from your own hands revives the sense of compassion and tranquility to your husband and children.
Can anyone other than you accomplish this? It is recommended to refer to “The Suggester of Evil Thoughts“pgs 148-149
5- Any job goes and comes, changes and transforms, improves and worsens….. while the family, children and husband, don’t endure bargains and threats.
6- The western woman’s materialistic view of everything including marriage, divorce, expenses, and household…. isn’t your model, since you are first a muslim, second a muslim, third and for ever a muslim.
7- By preserving your husband and children, you preserve Islam and the society, and by neglecting them you harm Islam and the society…. even if your salary was huge!
8- There is a widely-spread misunderstanding of the concept of the “working woman”, which is given only to the “productive” woman who works outside her home and takes a salary.
Based on this, the woman who cares for her home and family is “unemployed” because she isn’t money “productive”!
And this reminds us of those who said that “praying” is a “waste of time” and delay of production, and so is fasting…. because such issues weaken the national economy!!!
And these people neglected that the family mistress is a productive worker, with no doubt; infact, she works even more than those outside the house.
And it isn’t necessary that “work” be for a salary or a personal materialistic outcome; otherwise, where is the volunteer work, contributions and good deeds, all done to acquire God’s consent?!
9- Motherhood, which is for no one but the mother, and only the mother, is the milestone for building a human and humanity….and a good woman.
Swimming and the Beach
O, Dear Sister…..
From the issues that became so familiar lately, is going to “private” beaches, which do not allow the mingling of males and females, and it is protected away from the men’s sights.
And here, allow me to say the following:
1- Not everyone who puts a sign indicating an alleged private woman’s pool is aware of the limits and restraints and cares for them.
As some aim for business only, and might suppose that some “restraints” are unnecessary or unimportant or might allow a male person to mend an emergent breakage, is it that simple!
As not all of these people are religiously committed or muslims or know the limits of the legal and the illegal, the allowed and the prohibited, and apply them.
2- The clothing which displays the body more than the logical limits has bad consequences….. And some might reach the state of true danger, God forbid, even among women only.
And by this we warn our male youth, so how about our girls and women?
3- There are other damages, if the place and its owners weren’t trustworthy…. And it isn’t the occasion to detalize the issue, but we could pay very large prices, God forbid.
4- Such entertainment is new and foreign to us, and we have to be honest in estimating it and not with-taken under the title of fun, play and changing moods!!!!
God preserve us and you from any doubt.
Private Pictures infront of the Forbidden
Degrees of Consanguinity
O, Dear Sister…..
Following what you see in the media and movies, and in some “salons” of the official figures from displaying family and private pictures infront of forbidden degrees….. such an evil action started widely spreading in our houses!!
Wedding photos or boys’ and girls’ pictures or different pictures are being displayed in reception rooms, in a very visible manner to all visitors.
And in such an act, the foreigners and visitors become infatuated by viewing the different photos, which could tempt the eye to what these pictures may display from make-up on the faces, smiles, glances, actions, standing styles, “POSE”…. which are permissible for its owners and their allowable degrees of consanguinity, and not to all of the people.
So, if it was necessary to put pictures, let them be for the man of the house, or children, or grand-father or grand-mother….. while the private, intimate and emotional photos should be, for those who “insist” to put them, in the bed rooms only.
But also, they have to be very cautious from the entry of any foreigner into these rooms, perhaps to mend something, move an object, etc…
Smoking
O, Dear Sister…..
Smoking is a bad habit, and no one denies this, even if you were a smoker yourself.
So, don’t listen to those who say that smoking removes your sorrows! If this was true, smokers would be the least people with sorrows.
And if smoking was a problem-solver! Then the people wouldn’t have been tested in this life, and life on earth would have been problem-free!
So, my dignified sister,
Don’t addict or even learn how to smoke, as it is a repulsive act, especially for women….. And it is really astonishing to see a truthful believer, strong woman in her faith who repels all the temptations of one’s evil self, how she can’t quit smoking!
I recommend you to refer to “My Dear Brother” as it has the convincing response to this issue, precisely pages 71-73, and it contains an easy and tested way to quit smoking.
Dreams and Visions
O, Dear Sister…..
The interpretation and explanation of dreams is a unique science that has its experts, and not everything that you see in your sleep will come true.
The reason of this talk here is the European exaggeration, for some women who depend on their dreams, until it became the only issue of their concern.
Dreams are numerous, and they surely have an explanation, but some care for them, more than they care about their decrees and what benefits them.
And it is important to alert you here, that it is not permissible to judge a person, or a case or an event or an occasion…. positively or negatively through visions or depending on dreams.
Be with God Al-Mighty
O, Dear Sister…..
Be with God Al-Mighty, and don’t be on God, The Gracious and all my concern is: ﴾ I deliver to you the messages of my Lord and I am a faithful advisor to you ﴿. The Elevated Places-68(الأعراف)
Even if some said about indecencies: ﴾ We found our fathers doing this and Allah has enjoined it on us, say: surely Allah does not enjoin indecency ﴿. The Elevated Places-28 (الأعراف)
﴾ If you love Allah, then follow me, Allah will love you and forgive your faults ﴿. The Family of Imran-31 (آل عمران)
And Peace be upon our Prophet Mohammad and his kind and holy family.
Mount Safi- Mount Amel,
The 3rd of Shawwal 1416
O Wives of the Prophet! You are not like any other of the women; if you will be on your guard, then be not soft in your speech, lest he in whose heart is a disease yearn; and speak a good word (32) And stay in your houses and do not display your finery like the displaying of the ignorance of yore; and keep up prayer, and pay the poor-rate, and obey Allah and His Apostle. Allah only desires to keep away the uncleanness from you, O people of the House! And to purify you a (thorough) purifying. (33) And keep to mind what is recited in your houses of the communications of Allah and the wisdom; surely Allah is Knower of subtleties, Aware (34) Surely the men who submit and the women who submit, and the believing men and the believing women, and the obeying men and the obeying women, and the truthful men and the truthful women, and the patient men and the patient women, and the humble men and the humble women, and the almsgiving men and the almsgiving women, and the fasting men and the fasting women, and the men who guard their private parts and the women who guard, and the men who remember Allah much and the women who remember – Allah has prepared for them forgiveness and a mighty reward. (35) And it behooves not a believing man and a believing woman that they should have any choice in their matter when Allah and His Apostle have decided a matter; and whoever disobeys Allah and His Apostle, he surely strays off a manifest straying. (36)
The Allies (32-36)
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